Dealing with Anger, Bitterness, or Resentment

1. Admit you are angry. Be honest with God. Don’t try to hide your genuine feelings from Him. 

Hebreus 4:13

E não há criatura alguma oculta à sua vista; pelo contrário, todas as coisas estão nuas e patentes aos olhos daquele a quem havemos de prestar contas.

Ephesians 4:26

“Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath.

2. Discover why you are angry. God asked Cain, “Why are you wroth (angry)” 

Genesis 4:6

So the Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry” And why has your countenance fallen?

3. Don’t let your emotions control you. 

Proverbs 16:32

He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.

Ecclesiastes 7:9

Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, for anger rests in the bosom of fools.

Proverbs 14:29

He who is slow to wrath has great understanding, but he who is impulsive exalts folly.

4. Give your anger to God. Remember angry words stir up anger in others. 

Proverbs 15:1

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Psalm 37:7,8

Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him; do not fret because of him who prospers in his way, because of the man who brings wicked schemes to pass. Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; do not fret–it only causes harm.

5. Forgive any others who have wronged you. Since God has forgiven you for what you have done to Him, ask Him to give you forgiveness for what others have done to you. 

Efésios 4:32

And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forging one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

Luke 11:4

And forgive us our sins, for we also forgive everyone who is indebted to us. And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.

Colossenses 3:13

suportando-vos uns aos outros e perdoando-vos uns aos outros, se alguém tiver queixa contra outro; assim como Cristo vos perdoou, assim fazei vós também.

6. Forgive yourself for being angry. 

1 João 1:9

Se confessarmos os nossos pecados, ele é fiel e justo para nos perdoar os pecados e nos purificar de toda injustiça.

7. Deal with anger quickly. Don’t let it accumulate. If you need to ask someone’s forgiveness, do it. 

Ephesians 4:26

“Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath.